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Feeling as though you are “man enough” can be a big problem and source of shame for many men. In this week’s podcast I spoke to Martin Mezei, and we discussed masculine energy and how men can harness it to become more confident in their lives.
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Vlog
Hey guys,
I’ve decided to take a break from social media. I will still be posting content on YouTube but have decided to uninstall all the other social media apps from my phone, and am only checking Facebook once per day just to see if there are any important messages I need to respond to.
I have made this decision to protect my mental health, as you can learn about in the video above.
I hope you are all well out there!
Joe
Podcast
Hey Guys!
Hope you are all doing well out there. I wanted to share with you the live training I did on building core confidence. The training is about an hour long and focuses on the four pillars of core confidence: Purpose, Principles, Perspective, and Personality.
These pillars are central to developing core confidence and self-esteem, and without them life can feel like a bit of a tick-box exercise. If you are wanting to feel more fulfilled and alive, then I would highly recommend you check out this training!
Feel free to go and download the free e-book I wrote on The Four Pillars:https://www.strongmindedcoaching.com/4-pillars-core-confidence/
Book in for a FREE call where we can discuss how I can help you to move forward in your life, and gain more confidence/self-esteem: https://calendly.com/josephdeanbryson/confidence-course
Looking forward to hearing from you!
Joe
Podcast
What is going on guys!
Super excited to bring you the first episode ever of The Strong Minded Podcast!
This week I spoke to porn and sex addiction recovery coach Bill Ranshaw. It was a very powerful conversation, so I hope you take value!
Hope you are well out there wherever you are, and I look forward to bringing you the next episode!
Cheers, Joe
Vlog
Hey guys,
So in today’s video I talked about the challenges I’m facing right now in regards to my living situation. I have struggled financially for most of my adult life, and find myself living back at my mum’s after spending 6 months of last year in Spain.
I have always aspired to be an independent person, and it is difficult to accept that I am not in a financial position to be able to provide for myself and live independently. I have recently had to deal with the shame and guilt that I feel for being in this position.
Whilst living at home has certain benefits ( save money, home-cooked food, around family), there is a confidence provided by living independently and doing as I please. Whilst I do love that freedom, right now we are in Lockdown in the UK, so there isn’t much to do anyway.
I am therefore using this time to prioritize my business, my finances, and my mental health. Finding calm and peace has always been a struggle of mine, despite procrastination being a big problem of mine, it is largely down to anxiety and overwhelm, rather than the presumed laziness or lack of ambition.
I have been using Lockdown to work on being still with myself, learning to spend less time immersed on social media, and thinking more about how everything fits together in the long-term. I have always been highly ambitious, and whilst I am not where I want to be in life, I need to learn to accept the reality rather than distracting myself with fantasies.
Most of my financial struggles have come about as a result of me burying my head in the sand, and letting stuff pile up on me. By putting out videos, and talking about my life, it lightens my load and empowers me to take more action towards the future I want for myself.
Getting into ruts and negative patterns is very easily done, and sometimes we need outside perspectives to help us to move forward. So if you have found yourself struggling with the same stuff for many years, I suggest that you start thinking about how you can find other people to help you, whether that is through self-education with resources like books, videos, podcasts etc, or more personal support like a coach, financial advisor, PT etc.
Thanks for reading, and I look forward to sharing more of my life with you in the future!
Mindset
Hey,
Welcome to my first blog post. With the Pandemic going on a lot of people are very stressed and anxious, and I thought there was no better time to give some advice on how to reduce your stress and anxiety. Before we go any further, I’d like to remind you that I’m not a qualified mental health professional, I am however someone who has suffered from mental health issues like anxiety and depression for the majority of my adult life.
In that time I have worked hard to manage my mental health issues, and have done so by seeking to understand the root cause of my issues. In the video above I discuss where our stress originates from and how to go about reducing stress.
We live in a society that often promotes extrinsic values, like status, materialism, and financial success. Sometimes it can feel like life is a tick-box exercise, whereby we strive to try to reach and exceed the expectations set by societies standards. This way of living life can cause us stress, especially for those that are sensitive and self-aware. The solution to this problem is to turn your attention inwards, and start to focus more on intrinsic values e.g. physical and mental health.
When we focus on intrinsic values, it helps us to feel like we are more in control, and so we will feel more powerful and significant. We can control our physical health by exercising more, eating well, and generally taking care of our body. We can control our mental health by focusing on doing things we enjoy and feel passionate about, taking time out to relax and reflect, spending quality time with people you care about. You can also control the contribution you have in the world, focusing on how you can serve others.
Focusing on external values, can make us compare ourselves to others a lot. There will always be someone who is doing something better than we are, and so placing extrinsic values higher than intrinsic values, will always make you look outside yourself for a sense of confidence and significance. At the end of the day, we can only control ourselves, we cannot control other people and their perceptions. We wrongly assume that meeting other people’s expectations or needs will make us feel happier, but when it means sacrificing our own needs it will only lead to misery. As Theodore Roosevelt states “comparison is the thief of all joy”. We should seek to compare ourselves to the person we were yesterday, rather than focusing on how we measure up to others, as our own personal growth and self-improvement is something we have complete control over.
So stop trying to “keep up with the Joneses” and focus on yourself and what you can personally improve!
